“Late Love”
by Joyce Carol Oates
from the April 22 & 29, 2024 issue of The New Yorker
I know it’s been a long time, but I’d like to get back to posting the stories in The New Yorker (among other things), and so here we are with a new one by Joyce Carol Oates! I plan on reading it this weekend, but please feel free to comment about the story below! And, because I always wonder where to start, if you have a favorite book by Joyce Carol Oates, let me know.
Here’s how this one begins:
They were newly married, each for the second time after living alone for years, like two grazing creatures from separate pastures suddenly finding themselves—who knows why—herded into the same meadow and grazing the same turf.
What the hell? Can someone please enlighten me about what happens in this story? The only thing I understand is that it is amateurishly overwritten.
Ha ha! I haven’t read it yet, but I wanted to say that surely, given the author’s career and stature, this is professionally overwritten, William!
I strongly disagree Trevor. A story isn’t made good by its author’s awards, but by its intrinsic quality, or lack of it.
If you understand what happens in this story, please enlighten me.
My comment is meant to be read as tongue in cheek, William. I am no defender of JCO or her accolades, nor do I think what a writer has written before excuses any later failings (though it might provide context). This was just about the word amateur in one of its definitions, though I knew what you meant.
As for knowing what happens in the story, I’m excited to find out when I read it! You’ve certainly piqued my interest more than JCO’s street cred!
You asked, Trevor, whether I have a favorite book by Joyce Carol Oates, indeed I do.
“We Were The Mulvaneys”. I liked this book so much that I took it in twice, once as an audiobook and once as a physical copy. This is extremely rare for me – I have listened to over 200 audiobooks in the last five years and only three others were so good that I read the hard copy also. For anyone interested, the others are:
The Mirror and the Light – Hilary Mantel – third volume of the Wolf Hall trilogy
The Essex Serpent – Sarah Perry
Hitler, Stalin, Mum and Dad by Daniel Finkelstein, a memoir non-fiction, absolutely DEMANDS to be read and, I hope, will be on all school history syllabuses in coming years. Daniel’s mother and aunt survived Belsen and knew Anne Frank and her sister Margot.
So you can see that “We Were the Mulvaneys” is in very distinguished company, A classic all-American novel encompassing both contemporary and universal moral issues and a thumpingly well-written book (JCO cannot put together a clumsy sentence IMHO).
Due to no discussion here, I haven’t been here for a while. But after reading “Late Love”, I decided to visit, intending to comment on it under Oates’ previous story posted here. So I’m very pleased to see *this post and find discussions starting up again.
Welcome back, Trevor! (Please check your spam.)
“Late Love” grabbed and held me. Overwritten? Mmm… not so much. There’s something to be said for all the detail building up the tension, following the perceptions and thoughts of the wife—by third person narrator, but if omniscient we aren’t privileged to know. I suspected somewhere along the way that things weren’t necessarily as they seemed. But to answer the question of “what happened”, I’d say we know only what we’ve been told. Were there hints of more or other? Maybe… ambiguous. Is the narrator reliable? You tell me! See, it’s a *story!
I discovered JCO late, 30-some years ago, and over time I’ve read a rather random array of a couple dozen of her novels and story collections (more the latter), so I was a fan; but due to a few notable disappointments I eventually found her novels such a mixed bag that I became increasingly reluctant to risk rhem.
It’s been some years since I’ve read anything, other than her New Yorker stories since I first subscribed a few years ago. Probably the latest book I read was Wild Nights! , fictional versions of the “last days” of several classic authors. I liked that, except I felt she was over-cynical about Twain. I’m sure I’ve missed numerous gems, and have long intended to explore again.
Where to start? Hard for me to say. I never read some of her most acclaimed books (such as Them, and Blonde). I did read ..Mulvaneys, which was luke warm for me, although I recognize its merits and understand why it was popular. I suspect it will be one of her novels on the shorter list that is read past our lifetimes.
My first was A Bloodsmoor Romance, which I very much enjoyed. It’s a 19th Century family saga/romance satire. My highly literate and deeply moral mother didn’t know that when I began reading it to her during her bereavement upon becoming a widow. Not far into it, she raised doubts about wanting to continue, but I said let’s go on a bit longer. It was when we got into a certain “bedroom scene” that she suddenly started laughing her head off… and she was hooked.
The novel that most engaged me was What I Lived For. It’s been a long time, but I recall feeling it was meaningful, had substance. Who knows how I’d have responded now. But I liked it enough that I brought it to a potluck supper at Christmas time one year, where we had a gift giving game in which the person who will receive your gift is unknown and not your choice.
I prepared the book by thoroughly pasting the pages of the epilogue together so they could never be read. You see, the epilogue is a spoiler; and I don’t just mean a spoiler in the ordinary sense. I mean it spoils the story if you *ever read it! I explained this to the senior lady who got my gift, and she seemed baffled.
Look: Some of you may have watched the TV series “Lost” (one of the few drama shows that engaged me by that time, and almost the last TV I ever watched). And you may recall what the final episode did to the whole series…
Don’t read the epilogue. Tear it out and throw it away before you even start. Don’t turn a meaningful story into a made-for-TV movie. I’m so afraid that like the kid putting his fingers in the flame you’ll not heed what I say. I’m warning you! What more can I do?
On the other end of the spectrum, I needn’t have bothered with Black Water). The last of her novels I read was Middle Age: A Romance. It was all I could do to get through it and I remember nothing more about it.
I’ve read a few other novels, but mostly her short stories, about 15 of her 50 or so collections. Apart from what I’ve mentioned, that’s what I like best of her work. If you’re a short story enthusiast like me, maybe you ought to start with High Lonesome : New & Selected Stories, 1966-2006. I recall particularly liking a little volume of “short shorts” called Where Is Here? About 10 of her collections are in the realm of horror, suspense, etc. I read one, but I have very limited appetite for that sort of thing. Although our current story fits that category, doesn’t it?
If I ever get back to JCO novels, I may try another one in her series akin to Bloodsmoor (such as Bellefleur), and catch up on later ones that look good (such as The Gravedigger’s Daughter, or A Book of American Martyrs). But I’d like to hear from others what stood out for you.
And Senior: thanks for the recommendations, they sound good!
This is a great story about two older people starting all over again. Again, they attempt a successful satisfying marriage. Yet all the uncertainty of their first marriages seems to recur in the 2nd. The brilliance of the story is in the vulnerability of the woman having to depend on a man, who seems at least during the day, so emotionally self-sustaining as though his new marriage is more necessary for her than him. He appears extremely successful and we don’t know much about the woman. But whatever her success was or is, it never receives the much higher valuation that the supposedly higher achievement of a male seems always given. This is supposedly in the academic world but seems pretty solidly established in all parts of our patriarchal world. This is a continuation of a theme that runs through Joyce Carol Oats “Babysitter” that brilliantly contrasts the privilege of a single male in his younger years, playing the field with the disaster that can befall a woman who takes the same risks of assaying the same role. The rightful single man’s agency in playing the field of women is never questioned or criticized, while a similar agency in a single woman is always judged inappropriate to her role as a wife and mother. This short story seems a nonfictional followup to Joyce Carol Oats “A Widow’s Story A Memoir” which is harrowing to read. She examines every element that comes into play when her very close relationship to her husband suddenly reaches an totally unexpected abrupt end. In our double occupancy world, it is difficult to imagine how such a high achieving majorly respected writer like JCO would find it difficult to survive alone on her on high achievement. But the transcending brilliance of her memoir is that she’s resilient and bounces back no matter all the obstacles. She never says it but her strength affirms the strength of all women in whatever they choose to do.
If you are inclined to find more resonance in brilliant fiction then “Babysitter” is a great novel to read. If one draws more resonance out of real life factual obstacles, feelings and sensitivities, then “A Widow’s Story” is a perfect memoir to read with an amazing all inclusive sensitivity and perception of what happens when a loving wife loses her beloved husband. I’m really glad the New Yorker published this short story.
Glad to see some familiar faces here :-) ! I haven’t finished the story yet, so I haven’t read the comments carefully yet since I don’t want to know everything that happens in the story, but I am enjoying the story quite a bit so far (about halfway done, I think). I’m going to try to finish tonight!
And Eddie — I do now see your emails! I hope we get some more discussions going here as well! Thanks so much for your enthusiasm and support!
Larry – I appreciate your thoughts on the story, and your Oates reading recommendations. Having been a fan and read numerous of her books, I really ought to read her memoir.
Trevor – It seems I can receive email, but mine goes into your spam. Can you “not spam” it?
–Possible spoiler alert–
The final paragraph of “Late Love” is suggestive of a resolution, for both, but especially for the wife. Perhaps that is JCO’s intent. But is it resolved for the reader? We don’t know that the wife imagined the husband’s nightmares, only that *she had at least one. Does anyone see other clues or indications of what the author (as opposed to the narrator) intends us to conclude (or believe, or take away…)?
Then, we are directed to JCO’s post-story interview about “mystery”, which seems suggestive. No revelations there.
Am I making this story out more complicated than need be? Is it brilliantly designed to mystify? Or is it a slightly imperfect attempt to convey exactly what the final paragraph depicts? (…and they lived…)
This story having drawn my attention again to Oates, I pulled out, almost at random, a 1984 story collection called _Last Days_. The first story, “The Witness”, notably parallels “Late Love”. The 1st person narrator is recalling herself as a troubled 11 year old girl whose reliability she questions herself. I’d be interested in how others may respond to this story. I discovered that the book is available to read free on archive.com, in spite of its being by a living author.
So far having read half of the collection, I’m reminded how much I liked JCO’s writing, am inspired to read more, and will add this to my recommendations to those who’d like to sample her work. That’s in spite of the tendency of reviewers to disparage her books, or give them faint praise—or even feint (sic) praise! Yes, I suspect that reviewers may feign unfavorable opinions of JCO for fear of compromising their reputations among so many other critics who like to do the same.
Anyway, most of the stories in the first section are good samples of a JCO style. I did, however, skip the title story (for now), because it seemed a tedious read in the evening when I was somewhat weary. I skipped to the book’s last story, “Our Wall”, a marvelous fantasy depiction of the future at the Berlin Wall, had it not been taken down. The story was first published in 1982, seven years before deconstruction of the wall began. Another story, “Ich Bin Ein Berliner”, also 1982, is set at the wall back then. A fascinating story pair, a good brief JCO sample of two different sorts.
Eddie,
Thanks for your comment. Also thanks for all the more info on Joyce Carol Oates, her books and her short stories and what critics do in criticizing her because she has written so much and seem to withhold credit for how well written her books are, trying to short change her achievements whenever and wherever they can. The big boss where I work would tell her not to listen to any of them. He would also say, when a critic writes that an author’s excellent book is not that great, he or she is telling the whole world that he or she is incapable of writing such an excellent book that they need to so strenuously criticize. I have only read, “Babysitter” and “A Widow’s Story.” But they are both brilliant.
I would say that her memoir is stark but contains almost every thought or consideration a woman might have had her beloved husband suddenly died.
Spoiler Alert
As far as “Late Love,” she puts a horror spin on the tale, which puts it over the top or makes it a little more complex through a third person POV. If you read “A Widow’s Story,” it gives a more personal description of what could be the woman’s state of mind and her attempts to understand the man.
This story could be seen as playing with opposed or could be opposed polar opposites. Man versus Woman. Day versus Night. Confidence versus Uncertainty.
It could also be seen as playing with stereotypes. In the day everything is clear. At night everything is unclear. Woman are usually clear. Men are always unclear and indecisive. Woman are always unclear and indecisive. It can be sort of like Bach, counterpoint. Opposites bouncing off each other. Also some people interpret nightmares as uncertainty, unease with something or outright terror.
Be interesting when we see Trevor’s comments.
I am afraid I’m still running behind here, folks! But I’m determined to finish it and have some more thoughts up here tomorrow! In the meantime, I have avoided the comments above for the most part, but I’ll be on soon!
I think this is a great story. To me it is amazing that Oates can get my attention with what seems like a pretty straightforward domestic scene: a husband and wife, newly married, in bed, and the wife is tentative about how to help her husband awake from a bad dream. I was engaged and would have been fine even had the story stayed there, the wife getting increasingly fearful of the husband’s dream-state, even questioning the seemingly normal and lovely man whom she knew during the day. The day / night — reality (with all of the things we do to clean up and present a face) / existential dread (with all of the trappings of decay and body horror) dichotomy really worked for me.
Then for Oates to take us to the paranoia of Rebecca and the horror of Cronenberg . . . I just found the story always surprising, even while (to me) Oates stayed focused on the idea that the other is a mystery, and it can be hard to get one’s footing when the mystery comes to the surface.
I also love the ending, where it almost shows that this is a dance they are both participating in, neither knowing who is leading and who is following. Certainly we cannot be certain which was dreaming and whose nightmares are the most threatening to marital security.
I’d love to hear more from William about why the story felt overwritten. Because that was the first comment here and I responded to it before I had even read a word of the story, it was very much on my mind. I don’t think I was reading the story to defend JCO. I think (but who knows) that I was open to the critique and willing to agree, but I was carried along consistently and never felt that the writing got in the way or failed to keep me on track.
I just read JCO’s interview with Deborah Treisman (here), and I thought this was put quite succinctly:
It’s not that this a new concept, of course. But I do think JCO’s story approaches it from a particularly horrifying and visceral way that feels quite “true.”
I was just able to catch up with the comments above. Thanks to all for the thoughts on the story (I agree that it is meant to be a bit of mystery for us as it is for the husband and wife — who is having the bad dreams? — and I think that uncertainty is part of the point she’s driving home). And thanks for the JCO recommendations and extended thoughts there. I have read very little of her work, and only short stories. There’s much to explore for sure!
Trevor,
I like your three comments. First, a good assessment of the worth and how well-written the story was. Curious as to what specific parts of the story William thought were overwritten and what about them gave that impression. He usually notices a lot in the New Yorker short stories that I would totally miss. The concept of another person being somewhat unknown to their spouse is a good point. But it emphasizes the need for self knowledge and hyper awareness of what is going on in others no matter the situation. Was happy the couple stayed together and weren’t split apart but the strong turbulence from one another both could encounter at any time. And yes, there is much to read.
The story was great up until the end. I was very disappointed. The injection of horror required horror in the end. It did not.
I’m taking it that JCO left the “reality” of the story a mystery, take what you will from it. Thus we can take many different stories from it. What is consistent is that we are seeing it through the wife’s perception, whether she is right or wrong, dreaming, or hallucinating, or not.
I take that she is so abnormally fearful that it quickly escalates to disturbed. Every time she fails to share her feelings with her husband, it becomes even harder to do. Had I been in her place, I would early on have said “let’s discuss this”. Instead, she hides, all real communication is lost, they are wholly separate.
So the story is not about how a “normal” person would have coped with the issue of the nightmares. It’s about a disturbed person. Or two disturbed people. Or an exaggeration of many so-called “normal” marriages…
If the writing is consistent, then the ending is still the perception of the wife. JCO leaves it there. But what happens next? And tomorrow?
Or the reader may want to take it that the final scene represents a true mutual recognition. Happily ever after, the end.
Mark: “The injection of horror required horror in the end.” Do you feel authors are remiss if they don’t follow that rule? Or did you mean that’s your own personal reading requirement? How would you have ended the story?
Larry: I have ordered a copy of _A Widow’s Story_ for under $4 (ex-library, which I like for their protected dust jackets!) I may not get to it immediately, with so much I’m into.
Until this “Late Love” discussion, I had sort of thought maybe I had had my day with JCO, with all the other great authors I’ve scarcely or never read.
Kirkus gave JCO’s latest story collection _Zero-Sum_ (2023) a pretty favorable review—but no star. Very few of her books get a star. Maybe Kirkus fires reviewers who dare give her one. Anyway, I plan to read it, catch up on what JCO is doing these days, even if they do sort of like it.
Also, her upcoming new novel, _Butcher_, appears to be another of her 19th Century imitations. Sounds pretty strange and interesting. Again, I read the Kirkus review. Positive! (No star)
I’ve observed that JCO is commonly criticized for overwriting. I thought of that when reading the rest of her collection _Last Days_. I was initially too tired to have patience with the title story, and also later when reading the almost novella length “My Warszawa 1980”. I later read them upon waking in the morning, alert, with care and patience, thoroughly enjoyed both and found them brilliant.
I have the bad habit of looking at Kirkus reviews of books I read or may want to. Their review of _Last Days_ concludes:
“A few real stories, then, but mostly skippable Oates trivia.”
The “real” ones are almost certainly those in the first part of the book which I cited earlier as being in a styistic category with “Late Love”. The critic praised one of those, and then slammed the title story, as well as:
“… a number of travel stories—in which celebrity-writer Oates converts {and justifies?) her semi-official literary journeys to writers’ conferences and cultural congresses into a very thin, outrageously padded kind of fiction.”
Those would be the three stories following “Ich Bin Ein Berliner”, in which the POV of each was a different woman character attending such gatherings, the like of which I imagine JCO did attend. Certainly she would have learned a lot about what they and their attendees were like, and about certain foreign locations and their people. What exactly does the critic think is wrong with an author basing stories on knowledge and insight gained this way? And I seriously doubt the central characters or their actions were autobiographical, beyond being woman attendees. Or is *that “quasi”?
Was the fiction thin and padded? Two of the stories were pretty long, but I can hardly imagine what would better have been left out. The descriptions of the setting and people are a large part of the stories, as were conference discussions. Stripped of those, would the personal story lines have stood alone? Of course not, they were part of the whole, which is well assembled. Read “Old Budapest” and tell me it’s not a great story.
After the three “conference” stories, the last two stories in the collection are short, but represent two story types very different from any of the previous ones. I’ve described “Our Wall” in an earlier comment. “Lamb of Abyssalia” mystifies me. I need to read it again. But if someone here reads it, please come tell me what you make of it.
_Last Days_ is a great collection, diverse and excellent throughout. I might not ever have read it had “Late Love” not been discussed here. If you liked that, you’d probably like at least four of the stories in the first section. I hope some readers here will check it out. But don’t read it when you’re in a hurry, or about ready to fall asleep!
The book is available to read free at:
https://archive.org/details/lastdaysstories00oate/mode/1up
Eddie,
Thanks for all your observations on JCO and the review of her new short story collection. I sort of wonder if the horror angle at the end of “Late Love” might have been an editorial suggestion? I think the popularity of realism in short stories and novels has lessened considerably such that authors who skillfully use realism are not as appreciated as much as they were 25 or 50 years ago just in and of itself because it is not as “flashy” and there’s no “gimmick” to capture or hold the reader. Somehow their writing never glitters enough. It is kind of an irony that the most effective realism is generally underwritten excepting that the truth of something real can be factually over the top, much or moreso than any feverishly imaginative fiction. Any reviewing entities like Kirkus or The New Yorker or New York Times reflect the preferences of reviewers that aren’t usually hidden in their reviews. So doing what you have done, reading and figuring out what you, yourself think of them, is very valuable so the average reader is not then put off from reading a particular writer who has been successfully writing for a long time. Reviewers like Kirkus and New York Times have their preferences for flavor of the month or year or they are only looking for the next really big writer! Sort of like in the movies. Major older actors have to reinvent themselves continually so that today’s audiences keep going to see their films. Am so glad The New Yorker published “Late Love” and referred to JCO’s latest short story collection and her new novel. She has written so much that is excellent and just keeps on going, continually writing. A huge blessing for her and us!
Larry
There does seem to be a major trend (not exactly new) to so-called “magical realism”, something short of what we’d call fantasy. To me, in concept, this ought to mean that there is something magical in the story (not in the metaphorical sense, but rather something or someone that is not possible in the “natural” sense), but that the characters, relationships, and story resemble real life. Am I getting this right?
Then there is basic pure realism, real life as we know it. I haven’t read enough or in any sort of balance to have no notion what percentage of fiction writing is or was realism, relative to the magical realism. But I know readers who don’t like anything unreaiistic, especially magical, in fiction. I love both and all, if it’s good, according to my sensibilities.
There’s this other category, in my mind, short of magical realism, which I like to call “implausible realism”. That would be anything that *could be real, could happen (whether physical reality, beings, relationships, or whatever), but is highly unlikely, even preposterous. It pushes the boundaries if realism, bu you’d need to make your own judgement about where pure realism begins and “implausible” begins—because “truth is stranger than fiction”, so someone said.
Maybe _Lord of the Flies_ fits the concept? Or maybe not…
T C Boyle is an author who commonly pushes that boundary. J C Oates often does, too—but she’s all over the place. Is “Late Love” plausible?
So to the subject of critics: I think many seem not to be able to separate their preferences in style or category from their judgement of what they review.
I think many judge writing against given models or their own preferences. They may denigrate something for not being realistc when that may not have been the author’s intent.
“This is a poor excuse for an apple. It’s not crunchy, and it isn’t even round.”
“That’s because it’s a pear. I like pears!”
Larry: For the record, in case there was any misunderstanding: I mentioned the new JCO story collection _Zero-Sum_, which I haven’t read. The one I reviewed was 40 years old, _Last Days_.
Also, for the record: Of course, I should have said “feint disparagement”, not “feint praise”, in a previous comment How to flub up a decent word play! Funny no one pointed that out to me.
Now I’m going to try to move on.
But Trevor: How do you do those gray quotation blocks?
Eddie,
“I should have said “feint disparagement”, not “feint praise”, in a previous comment How to flub up a decent word play! Funny no one pointed that out to me.
Now I’m going to try to move on.”
The “flub” wasn’t really a flub if you ask me. One of the joys of any kind of writing is looking for the exact words that convey what one wants to communicate even if you want to experiment with meaning. There’s no right or wrong with how to use words and what meaning a reader will pull out of how you use them.
“feint” means a movement made in order to deceive an adversary
His air of approval was a feint to conceal his real motives.
feint praise or faint (as in “barely perceptible”)
It’s can be both. Critics use barely perceptible praise to trash something they don’t like or want to disparage.
as in regard or represent as being of little worth
Either way it’s interesting.
So no. Don’t think it was a flub.
Larry: True, it *could apply, as you say, to a reviewer’s praise, whether faint or feint or feigned. But my *intent was to address false or exaggerated *disparagement of Oates’ writing—thus my flub. At the same time, it’s *my ironic exaggeration, because it gives those reviewers more credit for recognizing her merits than I believe many of them actually deserve.
But although I express cynicism toward critics, I also recognize that there are valid contexts for criticsm. I do it a lot myself. Context is the key. That is to say, it may be a poor excuse for an apple if it’s wormy and actually an apple—unless it’s *intended to be a wormy apple. Sometimes we really don’t know what the writer’s intent really is. Sometimes (I think) it’s intentionally left for the reader to imagine. That may be the case with “Late Love” ?
Although I do want to move on, seeing the current New Yorker story is now up, I do have a bit more to add about JCO while we’re on her.
The list of books by, about, edited by, and including JCO is extensive on archive.org — And there are many videos.
https://archive.org/search?query=Joyce+carol+oates
A surprising number of her books are available free to read, without even registering. As I scroll down I find that even after the list seems to degenerate into items that are more remotely related to JCO, further on there are more of her books listed. One I noted is a novella I recall especially liking: _I Lock the Door Upon Myself_ . Another possibly good entry to her fiction.
Senior history fan: It’s hard to know just why I wasn’t as excited about _We Are the Mulvaney’s_ as you were. It was long ago, while I do recall thinking it well written and a possible classic. It may have been my reading mood, or what I had read just before… I hope no one was unduly influenced by my remarks. Your review makes me question my response and think mayhe I *ought to read it again. The trouble with that is that it’s exceedingly difficult for me to choose to reread any book, with the multitudes of unreads on my list!
So, _… Mulvaneys_ may be a good intro novel for readers who wouldn’t care for some of my choices. Besides, although I’ve read quite a few JCO books (mostly story collections), it’s a low % of her massive output, and my choices were rather happenstance—whatever just came out, or turned up in thrift stores or various sales—so I don’t even know what may be top of *my list were I to read even half of her books.
I’ve also enjoyed some big multiple author story anthologies which JCO edited. There’s _The Oxford Book of American Short Stories_ (1992). I think she did well choosing fine examples while (usually) not resorting to commonly anthologized ones. Then there’s _the eco anthology of contemporary american short fiction_ (yes, it’s all lower case). Fairly up to date, being 2008. Still working on that. Both are over 750 pages. She earlier co-edited a 1000+ page Heath anthology called _Story_ (1985) with Boyd Litzinger, which I haven’t tackled yet.
Finally: I see JCO as a phenomenon for her astonishing writing output, while also having a *life. My personal experience attempting much writing is that it became too demanding and all-consuming for me to have a life, too. I couldn’t stop, I often stayed up all night… Yet JCO can pour out the writing by simply devoting certain regular hours to that activity—so I’ve read.
Anyway, Oates is back on my list!
Eddie,
Thanks for mentioning how part of what I wrote, might be true. I think there is a precision to your writing. Your staying up all night writing to some writers might seem a sort of obsessive, reminds me of how T. S. Eliot wrote the “The Wasteland” and despaired of it ever becoming anything. Then he somehow met Ezra Pound, who went through it all and pulled it all together. He seemed to know what T. S. Eliot was striving for. You must have a lot already written. Maybe Joyce Carol Oates gets really obsessed with what she writes. I know in “Babysitter” the lady protagonist is obsessed with how what happens to her could ever happen and why. I could imagine you having a protagonist who is obsessed with something. I have a “what if you did this” suggestion. Pick out any book by whatever author you most like who writes about obsessed protagonists. In the back in the acknowledgements, notice who there agent is and the editor. If you want go to their respective websites, find out what they are looking for and if you have the first 10 pages of something you were working on fine tuned and polished, ask if and when they accept queries. If you want give it a go. It not that’s okay. It just seems you are so in tune with what you read, like Joyce Carol Oates that there is possibly something you really care about. It could make an excellent novel. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And thanks so much for all the JCO info.
A few days ago I received my order of JCO’s _A Widow’s Story_ , and _Zero-Sum_ . I’ve read all or the former, and 100+ pages of the latter. But I’ll report on those a little later, because i need to respond to Larry’s previous remarks to me.
Larry, you said:
” Thanks for mentioning how part of what I wrote, might be true.”
It sounds as if you felt I undermined your comments. To be precise, I meant that *everything you said was right–about how my words can be construed reasonably as I used them—except that my intent was a bit different (to be precise). I do try to be precise, because I like to convey my meaning. Even so, I often fail.
Thanks for your thoughts about writing. Had I understood a lot of things better long ago, possibly I could have “been a writer” of some sort, maybe a journalist–not that I especially had that ambition, beyond throwing something out there occasionally. Even less no do I have the motivation, willingness, desire… or time. Writing to discussions, and a few letters, is all expect to do. I have other priorities for whatever time I may have left on Earth.
One of my priorities is to read. A lot! More than I’ve managed to do lately, i hope. I spent periods of my life otherwise occupied, reading too little (falling asleep trying to read in the evening), leaving me an impossible catch-up list. What to choose, when I know I’ll never get to a tenth of the “essential” classics and moderns that interest me?
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If I ever write anything major, it will be a memoir about my remarkable mother and my experience as he primary care giver for the last 5+ years of her life. I thought about that when reading JCO’s memoir..
Eddie,
I didn’t think you undermined my comment at all. I like precise writing. E. B. White advises writers in “Elements of Style” to “write in a way that comes naturally” and “be clear”. I think you do and are. Whatever you think about your writing is always more important than what anyone else ever thinks about it. Joyce Carol Oates totally believes in her writing. Critics can question her evaluation of her own writing, but how she feels about it is always way more important than whatever any of them might ever think.
On reading a lot being a priority, you seem like you are doing a huge amount of that lately and it seems like careful reading and reflects in your very perceptive comments. Later in life people often carefully choose priorities that will provide them the most satisfaction and fulfillment. So cheers on that.
If you write your memoir about your remarkable mother and being her primary caregiver for the last 5+ years, I will read it. It’s an excellent takeaway realization after reading JCO’s memoir.
Larry
Like “Late Love”, JCO’s memoir _A Widow’s Story_ compelled me, keeping me anxious for her to get through her ordeal. Overwritten? Somewhat wordy and repetitious, although for good reason, as it conveyed how certain thoughts and experiences recurred and persisted throughout the months following her husband’s death.
From the age of 22, Joyce never had to face life without Ray. At 77 when he died (“so young”), Ray was 8 years older than Joyce, and although he had been seriously ill, his death was “unexpected”. Who would imagine he might die any time soon? Not Joyce. Then suddenly, she’s desperately lost.
Having read many of her fictional books written over a 25+ year period previous to this part of her life, which seemed to reveal a mature understanding of human relationships and life–and death–experiences, I was surprised at her almost oblivious innocence within her own marriage, and her inability to apply such understanding when faced with her husband’s death.
Joyce felt they had a wonderful marriage, and yet (from her own description) Ray was rather distant, holding much of his inner life from her throughout their 47 year marriage. He would never open up about sensitive parts of his earlier life, and she never probed. He read very little of his wife’s writing, and didn’t want her to read his unfinished early attempt at a novel . She doesn’t seem to condemn him or their marriage for any of this.
Although written somewhat later and published three years after the events, the book is largely based on her journals, and including numerous emails she wrote at the time, maintaining a sense of immediacy and assuring accuracy of current events and her feelings, while also recalling their narriage.
This is non-fiction, but I’d rather not offer any major spoilers. There is a certain amount of suspense that heightens the reading experience, such as the success or failure of her attempts to cope, and the consequences of some of her choices. I’m sure others facing widowhood could benefit from her experience. This is one of the reasons I have thought I should write a memoir.
My dad died when he and my mother were each just 2 years older than Ray and Joyce. I had been helping my mother take care of him (disabled and stomach-tube fed) at home for a year, sparing us the necessity, cost, and misery of a nursing facility. Then I set things up for her to most easily handle things while I returned to my home in another state for a few weeks, for reasons that seemed important at the time.
I was already 700 miles on my way returning to their home when over the phone she told me he had had a stroke and was in the hospital. I drove on for the rest of the 3200 mile trip, keeping in touch along the way. Maybe another 700 miles yet to go, she told me she was being told the damage was severe—he had lost reasonable use of both body and mind—and she needed to tell them whether to attempt resuscitation in the event of cardiac arrest. She thought it was best to say “no”, but needed my counsel—or support. I told her I agreed. He died the day before I arrived…
My mother’s experience was different from Joyce’s. My dad’s long illness and decline had forewarned of his death. It was still traumatic for her, but she had me (while Joyce was faced with being alone in “their” house). I read to her (including some by JCO) until she felt comfortable returning to reading herself. She eventually was able to enjoy life again. One of her favorite activities was joining local book discussion groups.
Fifteen years later, my mother became disabled and I spent practically 24/365 for over five years taking care of her at home, through walker, wheelchair, and finally bedridden for nearly two years until she died. I kept a journal thoughout. Joyce’s issues with hospital and doctors (however serious) were minimal compared to what I had to deal with. It’s a long and often shocking story. I tell those I know never to take me to a hospital—and I have damn good reason for that, whatever anyone may think… I was holding her hand when she died. That was the same year _A Widow’s Story_ was published.
Had Joyce prepared herself as I did, she might have spared herself a iot of trauma. I was very close to my mother, and recognized the loss I would feel when she died. At some point in the years prior, I faced it this way: I thought, “this is before, and there will be an after”. I contemplated this many times. Her death was a deep loss—and I’d love to have her back—but it was not traumatic because I had largely faced it already.
I do recommend _A Widow’s Story_ .
This is an interview at the time of its publication:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=g0E56XBUNoc&pp=ygUjSm95Y2UgY2Fyb2wgb2F0ZXMgd2lkb3cncyBzdG9yeSBwYnM%3D
The unnamed short story collection mentioned is called _Dear Husband_ .
Eddie,
Thanks for all your thoughts concerning JCO’s “A Widow’s Story”. I hadn’t really noticed her husband being “distant” but some husbands and wives probably share a lot and some don’t. And your memoir sounds like a great book I would purchase and read. I have a friend in publishing in a foreign country who gave me the best advice concerning writing a book. He said “write it if you must”. Some writers don’t like to go the traditional route because it can be a long hard climb even though if your book is accepted by them, they take care of a lot of the stuff you would have to fund yourself if you self-published your book. You could publish it for free as an ebook on Amazon (you set it up through Kindle). You could also publish it as a paperback (which is not free but also is set up through Kindle). If you get a book called “Publishing your book on Amazon,” it helps you run through all the options. The marketing of your book is probably the most difficult part. But the publishing on Amazon book explains a lot of options even for that. You mentioned you mostly wanted to read excellent novels, some maybe that Trevor digs up and suggests along with novels written by authors who, like JCO, have some of their short stories published in The New Yorker. Whichever you choose reading or writing your memoir or both, I think your Mookse comments are much appreciated and are very perceptive, especially this one concerning HCO’s memoir.
As acclaimed as this author seems to be, I found this story to be overwritten (as the firsts comments state) and incredibly nebulous. The overwhelming never ending descriptions and lack of arch or development are tiring and boring. Perhaps the worst thing in this story isn’t the confusing story itself, but the lack of resolution. The characters are shallow and almost superficial. I also find it odd that the writer would consider this mystery. The only mystery here is the fact that this is consider an outstanding piece of work.
Thank you Duala. My sentiments exactly.
Seems I’m not quite ready to “move on” from this page, especially considering it’s about everything JCO, who has been a favorite of mine. So, a word or two more here about “Late Love”, then I’ll want to post a separate comment about JCO and her other writings.
The major disputes over “Late Love” in this discussion have been whether or not it is overwritten, and whether it’s great or abysmal or even a good story.
I understand the feelings of those who found it overwritten. JCO does tend to get carried away at times (not in her earlier writing, but some of her later). In fact I did *think of this as I read “Late Love”, but:
I was compelled by the story and didn’t mind; in fact, it even seemed effective and appropriate. Maybe it could have been trimmed just a bit. I noticed a couple of unnecessary repetitions. Based on what small sampling I’ve done of pop fiction, some authors are repetitious to an extreme. Apparently, a lot of readers love that style. Maybe they can’t remember what they read from one page to the next and need to be frequently reminded of what’s already happened! So, yeah, I *noticed.
I’m glad to say that JCO books I’ve read are not like *that! Her form of overwriting seems to be offering a lot of detail which many readers would find excessive and unnecessary. I suppose some of what I write here fits that description. So enough on that subject already!
Trevor thought it was “a great story”. William and Duala thought quite the opposite. I much enjoyed the read, which says something. But I’ve read a *lot of her stories, many I’d say great. But what does that mean? A feeling or an assessment? Both, for me. I think a lot of what people feel is about personal taste, and assessment can be a lot about what we want or expect: the style is good or bad, the ending is right or wrong, clear or unclear… Usually there’s no use arguing with that sort of opinion.
On “Late Love”, Duala says, “The characters are shallow and almost superficial.” My observation is that there are really only two characters who matter here: the wife and the husband. The narrator is showing everything through the eyes of the wife, including her husband. We get to know the wife quite well.
JCO has published nearly 50 story collections; I don’t know how many stories, but it is surely several hundreds over 500. I’ve read over a dozen collections and some other stories, too. I liked this story, but think she written better. That’s about all I want to say about it.